R.I.P.


A curious Sampson

A relaxed, but curious Sampson

I remember growing up we would always ask our parents if we could get a dog. I would say we finally gave up when we hit middle school. It was quite funny. My dad just sounded like a broken record. A simple “NO” every time the question was brought up. He doesn’t like dogs. At least to my knowledge he doesn’t. We would hound him all the time. This question probably came up once a month. We never had a chance, but I guess it became a force of habit to ask every once in awhile to annoy dad.  My mom grew up with a dachshund. She always liked dogs, and I bet we could have convinced her to let us get one had our dad not intervened. Because of that I could never understand the connection people got with their dogs. I mean its just a dog right?

When my old roommate bought his first house, I moved in with him and shortly after that he asked if it would be cool to get a dog. Nobody objected and a couple weeks later Sampson showed up at our door. He was about 2 years old when Chris got him. I think from a family friend up in St. Francis or something like that. A Lab/Shepherd mix. Basically he looked like a chocolate lab with the tail of a German Shepherd. I knew nothing about dogs when he showed up. I couldn’t understand why he howled so much when the doorbell rang. Why did he just pee on that chair? Why does he obsess over small furry critters? Oh yea, I was late for work plenty of times from those mornings. He was a slut for attention but it was great. I remember those mornings where I would be laying in bed and Sam would put his head on my bed and stare at me waiting to get up. Those late nights hanging out in the backyard burning things, drinking Mickey’s hand grenades and chillin’ with the pup(he howled at fireworks). I learned a lot about dogs with Sampson and ultimately I was convinced when I moved out that I would someday have a dog of my own.

Early last week I guess he started having liver problems. I got a call from Chris around Friday and it didn’t sound good. Liver failure. Bad news. Nothing that could be done. I guess they said it was hereditary and it couldn’t have been avoided. Jeez, he’s barely 5 years old. It came one so quick. Just two weeks ago I was wrestling with him at Kubi’s. Just sad. They were able to put him on some meds for the weekend but last night Chris had to put him asleep. I was fortunate enough to stop by there Saturday morning to hang out with Sam for an hour or so and say my goodbyes. He wasn’t moving at all, couldn’t walk. However when I showed up his tail wagged just a little bit as I came into his view. That was pretty cool. I never thought I would have that kind of a connection with an animal. Everyone that came across to meet Sampson always said the same thing. A super mellow, kind, loving dog that liked everyone. Well everyone except for my buddy Paul whom Sampson liked to bite. Farewell Sam.

Two weekends ago was the first annual “Don’t Judge Me Pub Crawl” in memory of Greg Halstenson. Greg passed away back in late May of this year. We were out at a few bars in NE Minneapolis that last Friday in May and we all parted ways. Greg was found in a rail yard in St. Paul the following morning. The events that took place between when we last saw him and that next morning are still unknown. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing over the phone that next morning. I couldn’t believe it. He’s gone. For about a month or so every night laying in bed I would say that to myself, not believing it had happened. What a terrible thing to happen to someone so young. It was tough. I watched my best friend bury his best friend. A parent should never have to bury their child. Its supposed to be the other way around. I can’t begin to imagine what his family went through and my heart goes out to them. Well, this past weekend was a weekend for friends and family to get together to remember Greg.

I went to high school with Greg, but didn’t really get to know him until after that. A couple of rowdy and hilarious ski trips out to Colorado, and many nights hanging out in NE was where I really got to know Greg. He was the type of guy that would do anything he wants. If he got an idea, he’s gonna go through with it. He was the life of the party for sure. Greg was always in a good mood and ready for anything. I am happy to say that I considered Greg a friend of mine even if it was only for a few short years. The pub crawl was great. I think it was done right. The way Greg would have done it. We were ready to party hardy. We ruled the streets of NE that night. Bandanas, beads, and buttons, and booze. Go all out! It was great to meet people that I don’t know, but were friends with Greg. That night brought back all those memories of Greg, and it was great to share memories with others. This weekend we’ll be going out to Big Marine and camp on the island where there is a little memorial for Greg. One last weekend for this summer spent out on the island where Greg spent so many weekends. Hanging out with friends, camping, and fishing.

That whole night in late May has made me think differently. What little time we have on this planet needs to be cherished. Am I gonna continue to party every weekend and blow all my money at the bar? Or am I going to start growing up, make more of this opportunity that I have. The last couple of weeks since the pub crawl its been on my mind a lot. I feel that for a 26 year old, I could be doing more. I think to what Greg had. He had a nice little house in Heights, two dogs, and a boat. I know life is not about possessions, but I know he worked hard for those things, and were probably more then just possessions to him. Greg was truly one of a kind. The likes of which we’ll never see again. We miss ya Greg. May you R.I.P.

I was at work last week and I got a message from my mom to give her a call. I called her up and the first thing she said was, “I’ve got some bad news”. It turns out that someone that I knew quite well as I was growing up as a child was going to die.
My very first real friend and best friend was a kid by the name of Bobby. We hung out all day, every day for a number of years. I’m not gonna lie, he was of the trouble making ILK, but he was a good kid and a good friend. We got in trouble a lot and would always get chewed out by his mom Judy. From taking off on his go-kart, starting fires, turning the backyard into a rally pit for the cart, she always caught us. As we hit middle school we grew apart and developed new clicks. Unfortunately for Bobby his click was on the wrong side of the tracks. He missed a lot of school from there up through high school, and got in some trouble with the law. I never hung out with him again from that point up until last Friday night. “You remember Judy right?” says my mom. I say “of course”. “Well it looks like she is going to die”. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. From what I’ve heard she had broken her ankle some time back, and developed a blood clot that shot right up to her brain, put her into a coma, and is now on life support. It was really sad news and I felt so bad for that family. She was the lifeblood of the family business. They owned a truck wash and she did all the accounting. I’ll always remember her sitting in her office clicking away at the typewriter and yelling at us at the same time. She made this wonderful hot peanut butter and jelly sandwiches that to this day cannot be beat. I saw Bobby that same day I heard the news at Moe’s Tavern watching The Dirty Harry’s perform. We talked. About his mom, what we have been up to, and what not. It was hard. I didn’t know what else to say besides “I’m sorry”. He said we’re welcome to the funeral and I hope to attend. Just makes you realize how fragile our lives are. Think about it. It all started with an ankle injury. Crazy shit. I wish Bobby and his family the best from here on out. I like to think that God needed and accountant.

quote of the week – and excerpt from “Mad World” made recently popular once again by Gary Jules. Originally performed by Tears for Fears.
All around me are familiar faces
Worn out places, worn out faces
Bright and early for their daily races
Going nowhere, going nowhere
Their tears are filling up their glasses
No expression, no expression
Hide my head I want to drown my sorrow
No tomorrow, no tomorrow